I’m serious. Every time I tell how I. my brother, and my father were physically and emotionally abused by my mother on the internet, there’s always some asshole who has to chime in “well it couldn’t have been THAAAAT bad. You have no idea how haaaard it is to be a woman and a mother so it’s only naaaaatural there’d be some lashing out” (despite the fact that… uh, I’m a woman myself) or “well maybe your dad was the REAL abuser and your poor widdle mother was just defending herself from the big bad man!” (take it from the person who was there: he was just as much a victim as I was and was nothing but supportive and loving towards me and my brother), or even flat-out accuse me of lying. And I always get bombarded by statistics about how men are more likely to be abusers and how women are almost always victims. And they’re absolutely true. But at no point did I say they weren’t. I’m talking about MY case, not abuse cases in general. Women are not immune to being bad people. Women can be abusers. And I’m really tired of being told my abuse wasn’t “real” just because the perpetrator happened to be female. Justifying shitty, abusive, and at times criminal behaviour in the name of social justice defies the whole purpose of the movement.
/THIS