For many reasons, we may have mastered the art of giving away our energy. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel, and we did not know how to process them.
Much of our obsessing, our intense focus on others, is done to facilitate this “out-of-body” experience we call codependency.
We obsess, we babble, we become anxious. We try to control, caretake, and fuss over others. Our energy spills out of us on to whomever.
Our energy is our energy. Our feelings, thoughts, issues, love, sexuality; our mental, physical, spiritual, sexual, creative, and emotional energy is ours.
We can learn to have healthy boundaries - healthy parameters - around ourselves and our energy. We can learn to keep our energy within ourselves and deal with our issues.
If we are trying to escape our body, if our energy is spilling out of us in unhealthy ways, we can ask ourselves what is going on, what is hurting us, what we are avoiding, what we need to face, what we need to deal with.
Then, we can do that. We can come back home to live - in ourselves.
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Excerpted from The Language of Letting Go, by Melody Beattie (August 29th, Owning Our Energy)
Today, I will keep my energy in my body. I will stay focused and within my boundaries. [God,] help me to let go of my need to escape myself. Help me face my issues so I am comfortable living in my body.
This meditation is an emotional reset button for today. Boundaries are not meant to shield us from good times, to restrict our fun. Instead, boundaries are erected to maintain emotional balance and appropriateness within ourselves and our relationships. Inappropriate boundaries, or inappropriately maintained boundaries, lead to a host of troubling issues. Many of these issues are far more troubling than whatever sparked the initial need for the boundary to be erected.
My task is to own my energy and own my shit, dealing with the thoughts and feelings that enter my head and heart. Appropriately.
(via seekingrelease)